Shirtless.

Preface: For many of you who have been friends with me on various social networking sites, this piece may be a bit old to you. But I would like to share it with those who maybe haven't read it. This is how I view relationships.

I'd say about once a week i get asked the question, "why are you single?" well, the answer to that question is very complex. its really a combination of different things but i was looking through my blogs on my myspace and i remembered a blog that i wrote, here it is.

So, as I was getting dressed the other day, Im lookin through my dresser drawer for a t-shirt, when I come across one of my old favorite t-shirts. Im suprised to find it, and I put it on and to my suprise....it doesnt fit the way it used to. its a little too short and a little too wide. I guess from all the washing and wear and tear, etc. And dont ask me where it came from, but i began to think about how relationships are like t-shirts. Now, you may look at me and say Trent where are you going with this? Allow me to explain. When you first get a new t-shirt (one that you really like) you cant wait to wear it and let everyone see it. You wear it all the time and take EXTRA good care of it. Then that one fateful day comes when you spill something on it, and all hell breaks loose. Now you have to wash it, and we all know what happens after that first wash. The colors fade, it gets a little smaller, and its just not everything it used to be. Slowly it becomes "normal" or "old" to you, so you tend not to wear it as much. Slowly you stop hanging it in the closet and you begin to just throw it in the dresser drawer with the others. Until one day you find it and remember how much you used to love it. Relationships are the same way. When you first find that person, (a girl/guy you deem as "the one") you cant wait to hangout with them and be around them and show them off to everyone. They are the first and last thing you think about every single day. Nothing can go wrong. And then you get a stain, or your first argument, and sure, that stain may come out really easy, you may not even have to wash the relationship. But then another darker, bigger stain (argument) comes up, and this time you have to wash it. And everyone knows that your t-shirt (relationship) takes a mighty hard beating in the washer, so now when you've done that once, your relationship might be faded just a tad, or shrink just a little, but you still like it. But its just not like it was before. And after going through that process 10 times or more, here you are weeks, months, or years later, looking back at that relationship and remembering how good it used to be. And you might even try to get back into it, but it doesnt fit anymore. You've out grown it. And now you have two choices. You can either walk around shirtless for the rest of your life, or you can find a better shirt, one thats of better quality.

Until i find a shirt that i can see wearing for the rest of my life i think i'll be just fine shirtless.